If your wedding is coming up in October, November or December now is the time to consider your first dance!

Will it be slow and romantic or upbeat and swingy?  Will your dance have  lots of movement  to show off a big dance floor or are you working with a small square or runway floor and need something compact?

Don’t have a song yet?

Well, let me tell you what some of my couples are using right now so you can get those creative juices flowing!

Click on the (Lyrics) link to see the wonderful words to these great first dance songs and see if they don’t just describe your relationship perfectly!

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First Dance Songs!

“Wrapped Up In You” by Garth Brooks (Lyrics)

“Someone Like You” by Van Morrison (Lyrics)

“Yellow” by Coldplay (Lyrics)

“Better Together” by Jack Johnson (Lyrics)

“When The Stars Go Blue” by Tim McGraw (Lyrics)

“I Knew I Loved You Before I Met You” by Savage Garden (Lyrics)

“These Are The Days” by Van Morrison (Lyrics)

“L-O-V-E” by Frank Sinatra (Lyrics)

“I’ve Got You Under My Skin” by Michael Buble (Lyrics)

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Whatever song you choose you’ll want to get started soon on learning how to lead (gentlemen) and how to follow (ladies).

I write everything down at the end of each lesson so you have something to practice with at home and you’re always welcome to bring your phone or camera and we can video some steps too!

Remember the further away from the big day you start the more the dancing steps and technique have a chance to get into your muscle memory.

After all don’t you want to be gazing into each others eyes rather than trying to remember what comes next in your dance

For more song suggestions visit my Music page at:

http://www.OurWeddingDance.com/wedding-music.htm

And… you can always text me at 949.400.7347 and ask me what type of dance would go well with the song or songs you’re thinking of using!

Happy September,

Jillian

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Sure – you’ve got to concentrate on your first dance…

But while you’re at it why not throw in a little time with your dad to get him up and going?

Some dads aren’t so sure about that Father Daughter dance in the first place so why not be the first to mention the topic and suggest some real one-on-one time to get him good and ready?

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Is he a romantic and will shed more than a tear or two on your big day as he gives you away?

Is your dad a real ham – a performer with a capital “P”, ready to do it up big?

Or is he scared to death and would prefer to hire a Hollywood look-alike to dance his part?

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Whatever your dad is like there is a song and a dance out there that’s just right for your relationship.

I’ve had dads use popular songs, country songs, old favorites from their youth and one dad even used a song his daughter had recorded that she sang for him.  (Now that’s just adorable!)

I can keep it simple with some lead and follow techniques and just a few twirls and moves around the dance floor.

Or we can go for it and do a whole routine where dad shines at his best moves; with or without that famous chicken footwork he’s known for!

Whatever your dad wants, and you agree he can have (ha, ha), we’ll do and have a good time in the process.

Don’t be afraid to get out there with your dad…

Give dad a chance on his dance and you may just think that part of your reception video was one of the best!

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Have fun listening to these Father Daughter Dance song ideas:

1. All My Days, Alexi Murdoch
2. Father & Daughter, Paul Simon
3. Wonderful World, Louis Armstrong
4. Unforgettable, Natalie Cole
5. The Way You Look Tonight, Frank Sinatra
6. My Girl, The Temptations
7. Daughter, Loudon Wainwright III
8. Through The Years, Kenny Rogers
9. You Got A Friend, James Taylor
10. You Are So Beautiful, Joe Cocker
11. Gracie, Ben Folds
12. Kind & Generous, Natalie Merchant
13. When You Come Back Down, Nickel Creek
14. All You Need Is Love, The Beatles
15. God Only Knows, The Beach Boys
16. Take Good Care Of My Baby, Bobby Vee
17. You Got It, Ray Orbison
18. I Loved Her First, Heartland
19. My Little Girl, Tim McGraw
20. That’s How Strong My Love Is, Otis Redding

Call Jillian at 949.400.7347 or Email today to get a start on that Father Daughter Dance and Happy Father’s Day to all you dads out there!!!

Father Daughter Dance!

According to UrbanDicitonary.com this is “a bride that remains, calm, cool and collected during her entire wedding experience”.

Wow, what a concept!

So how can a bride possibly hope to do this?

Well, a step in the right direction could be to take that first dance off your “stress list” and put it on your “chill list”!

If you can take a few lessons in first dance technique and figures you’re well on your way to feeling super chill during that could be stressful two and a half to three or so minutes of solo time on the dance floor.

A little planning beforehand and some practice with the love of your life could make the wedding dance one of your happiest moments remembered from your reception.

Just learning a few proper leading and following techniques could mean the difference between a bridechilla and well whatever…

Even two or three steps nestled in both your heads can do a lot to eliminate that, “Wow, everyone’s watching and what are we doing here!” feeling that can creep into even the most romantic unpracticed first dances.

Call me today at 949.400.7347 or email me at Jillian@OurWeddingDance.com to start moving toward a more relaxed and comfortable feeling on the dance floor.

As well as being a ballroom dance instructor and choreographer, I’ve taught acting and directed numerous plays and will make sure you have lots of fun with each other during your first dance no matter if your song is sentimental, romantic, flirty, sexy or just plain good times!

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Be A "Bridechilla"!

And I just couldn’t resist this adorable picture I saw today on Yahoo News of President Obama and First Lady Michelle DANCING!

Michelle’s Valentine’s Day advice, btw, is “Laugh with your partner”.  And she attributes much of the success of her 19 year marriage to “a lot of laughing” together.

In this Jan. 20, 2009, file photo President Barack Obama dances with first lady Michelle Obama at the Midwestern Ball on the night of his inauguration in Washington. Here's the first lady's advice for couples this Valentine's Day, Monday Feb. 14: laugh with your partner. She says it's what she and the president do, and it seems to be working. It also helps that her husband is "very romantic". (AP Photo/Manuel Balce Ceneta, File)

So on this wonderful Valentine’s Day why not take a leaf out of their book and laugh together while getting ready for that first dance?

I offer foxtrot, waltz, swing and tango just to name a few of the fabulous dances you can learn for your wedding!

Why not get Dad out to polish up some of his moves for the Father/Daughter dance or maybe Mom for the Mother/Son dance?

It can’t hurt and I bet it leaves everyone feeling just that much more prepared for the big day!!

Besides, I promise we’ll do some laughing to help ease the stress during the hectic wedding preparatory months.

Give me a call at 949.400.7347 or email me at Jillian@OurWeddingDance.com

You can visit my FaceBook page here too and see lots of fun videos of my couples dancing and testimonials and pictures from their awesome day of days!

To read the Yahoo News article I’ve referenced, just click here.

And Happy VDay to all.

xxoo Jillian

Well, it was a crazy Halloween weekend what with my wonderful students giving a fantastic tango complete with chair and rose and fedora at their Dia de los Muertos party on Saturday and 430 trick or treaters on Sunday night!

And earlier this month I received an adorable video from Aaron and Kate who got married on October 9th and looked so pretty dancing to Elvis Presley’s “Can’t Help Falling In Love”.

They took their time with their lessons and spread them out over the months before their wedding.  And Aaron even learned a night club two step to do with his Mom.  Now that’s dedication to dancing!

He said he was nervous but I think he performed quite well under pressure and Kate looked dreamy in her gorgeous gown. 

Here’s his testimonial…

Aaron

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So grab your fiance and let’s get started on those early 2011 wedding dances!

Remember wedding dance gift certificates make great gifts for the holidays.

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Happy Thanksgiving!

I can’t tell you how much I look forward to hearing news about “the big day”.  I get so excited being included in all the wedding plans that when it comes time to say good bye and send my incredible couples on to wedding bliss I do feel a bit misty eyed. 

Hearing the stories and seeing their smiling and happy faces is just a perfect end to a great time spent teaching dance to my wonderful wedding couples.

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Hi Jillian,

I know it has been a very long time since we last saw you, and even some time since our wedding, but I have been meaning to write you and send pictures. . .  and I am just now getting around to doing it!

Thank you so much for all your help, it was really so fun working with you and it was perfect to have a simple (yet choreographed) dance to do at our wedding despite our nerves!

Beautiful Cuddle

Actually, Chris did great and didn’t seem nervous at all, but I was – thank goodness he was leading!!

The dance went so well, although it did fly by!

I don’t think we missed a step.

The day was beautiful and our dance must have inspired all our guests because the DJ later told us that our guests did the most dancing he has ever seen at an afternoon (lunch) reception!

We all had a wonderful time and got some great pictures of the dancing.

Check out Mom of the Bride - so excited!

Thank you again for making it all so easy and just being a fun person to hang out with/learn from.

We wish you the best and will contact you if we ever need a brush up lesson!

Sincerely, Caitlin and Chris

(Photographs by Josh Aull.)

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Remember call now or email Jillian for Fall and Winter weddings!

Reserve your favorite day and time today to look great on the day of your dreams…

Jillian@OurWeddingDance.com

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Jillian & apples at Riley's Farm

We had a fantastic wedding and were so pleased with our dance lessons.  Todd and I were actually receiving applause each time we did a twirl…. good stuff!!  We practiced everyday after we last saw you and did pretty well, except for one slip on the dress.  But I don’t think anyone really noticed.

Our photographer surprised us and one of his assistants was taking video so he put together this little montage in a link below.  The second half of the video is pretty much of us dancing.  He didn’t get all of our smooth moves but they got a good essence of the dance.  And Todd and I decided to practice before the grand entrance so they got some great shots of the dance under the sun set.

So no photos yet of the dress but I think you will get a good idea of you watch the second half (it is only 3 minutes long).

St. Regis Dana Point Wedding from Jordan Hoffmann on Vimeo.

Thanks again for all of your help and we wish you the best of luck!

Warm Regards,
Alyssa

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Happy end of Summer, Jillian

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Butterfly in my Garden!

Pictures* hot off the press from Lindsey and Scott’s romantic Summer wedding.

Lindsey & Scott Dance!

Oh my, oh my – I couldn’t wait to post these gorgeous pictures from Lindsey & Scott’s wedding reception July 24th at the Huntington Beach Hyatt.

They danced an adorable foxtrot to “So Beautiful” by Darin Hayes.

The bride was a tad on the shy side so we kept the moves intimate, fun and flirty and all angled toward the groom to keep the couple using the floor lots and showing off Lindsey’s amazing gown.

Lindsey sent me an email on July 26th just two days after the big day saying,

Hi, I just wanted to let you know everyone liked our dance.  We messed up a little but it was ok everyone thought it was cute and really enjoyed it!  So we wanted to thank you so much!!  Lindsey and Scott

And…

Their outstanding and charming wedding planner, Christine Baumgartner of The Perfect Day sent me an email as well!

Hi Jillian,

I wanted to let you know that Lindsey and Scott did a wonderful first dance at their reception.  They looked lovely and happy.  They both told me how much they enjoyed working with you.

Thanks again for helping them, Christine

In Love!

I just love to hear back from everyone about their big day and see all the pictures.

Call me with any questions about your special first dance.

I can’t wait to get started, Jillian

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Just Dreamy!

*Photography by Priscila Valentina Photography

Visit her web site at PriscilaValentina.com

This past weekend kicked off the Irvine Barclay Theatre sponsored Summer Festival with a wonderful swing dance party to Swingtown Friday, August 6th and an equally rousing mariachi concert to Mariachi Reyna de Los Angeles Saturday, August 7th.

I must admit I raced out the door to swing it with Swingtown not wanting to be late for their 8pm start, remembering the long snake-like lines of cars from last year that kept me tapping my toes in the car and not on the dance floor.

Much to my happy surprise the Park had rethought their entrance procedures bringing in people from the other side and having four ticket lanes prepared to take your $10 parking fee (up from the $8 of last year) parking cars in a closer parking lot with other attendants guiding you into the spaces a la Disneyland.

Golf carts were again available to ferry you and your friends on up to the front gate leaving me thinking all this needed was a nice glass of chardonnay to complete the pampered arrival experience. 

The band was placed on the short side of the dance floor this year giving a delightful view behind them of the Great Park’s vibrantly lit orange balloon going up and down all night in the cool summer sky.

We were greeted by an absolutely packed and well-lit floor with people of all ages swinging up a storm.  I spotted toddlers boinging like miniature Tiggers all the way to  senior citizens lindy hopping with enthusiasm.

Saturday’s fabulous all woman professional mariachi ensemble of ten ladies in very impressive giant sombreros was equally enjoyable and well attended.

Together for more than 16 years, this group of talented musicians and singers kept the audience singing along to familiar tunes, clapping their hands and swaying back and forth in their seats.

Of course, I had to drift to the back of the seated group and enjoy a couple of rumbas and polkas with my honey to the irresistible beats.  Who says you can’t dance just about anywhere??

So if you’re asking yourself  where you can go this Summer to dance or just plain be entertained where it doesn’t cost an arm and leg for admission, you don’t have to drive in wall to wall traffic to get to and it isn’t too hot and claustrophobic once you finally get in… give the Great Park Friday Night Dance Parties and Great Park Saturday Night Concerts a try.

I’ve written out their schedules with links below and if you want to ask me in advance for a couple of steps to have fun out of the dance floor, well I wouldn’t mind one bit throwing them in with our work on your wonderful  wedding dance.

Happy Summertime,

Jillian

949.400.7347

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Friday Night Dance Parties*

August 6:  Swingtown (Swing)

August 13:  Lucky 7 Mambo (Afro-Cuban)

August 20th:  DJ Hapa & DJ Casey Connor (NY/LA DJs spin the spectrum dance music)

August 27th:  Hector del Curto’s Eternal Tango Quintet (Argentine Tango)

September 3rd:  Steve Lucky and the Rhumba Bums with Miss Carmen Getit (Swing, West Coast Jump Blues and R&B)

September 10th:  Big Sandy and His Fly-Rite Boys (R&B and Rockabily)

September 17th:  The Jerry Mandel Swinging the Standards Jazz Band (Gershwin, Porter, Sinatra, Bennett & more)

September 24th:  Waltz Me (Strauss and Ballroom)

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Saturday Night Concerts*

August 7th:  Mariachi Reyna de Los Angeles (First all-woman pro mariachi ensemble in the US)

August 14th:  Big Bad Voodoo Daddy (A favorite from last summer – swing it!)

August 21st:  Last For One (World champion b-boy dance crew from Korea)

August 28th:  Te Vaka (Music from the Polynesian Triangle, New Zealand to Tahiti)

September 4th:  ScrapArtsMusic (World-famous group will play instruments made from recycled industrial scraps!)

September 11th:  Blind Boys of Alabama (Gospel, Soul, Blues & Funk)

September 18th:  Donavon Frankenreiter (OC native musician and pro surfer, hang ten!)

September 25th:  BeauSoleil avec Michael Doucet with Big Chief Monk Boudreaus and the Mardi Gras Indians (Cajun band, Mardi Gras to the OC)

*Admission is free, Parking $10/car, 8pm.

Jillian at the Great Park!

When your guests watch your first dance do you think they’re looking at your feet?

Probably not.

The bride’s feet are most likely hidden by her dress and the groom’s feet may possibly be as well.

Your guests’ gazes are on your radiant faces and your dancing frame, that is your arms connected to each other hand to hand on one side and the groom’s right hand upon the back of the bride on the other.

The frame can make or break a dancing couple.

A “noodle” frame can make the dancing couple look soft and squishy and make the lead and follow very difficult to give and take.

A “rigid” frame can make the bride and groom look stiff and awkward and may even actually hurt the bride to take the lead, especially if her dashing groom is a strong armed one!

So what’s the best frame for dancing?

The leader should always frame up or down to the height of the follower.

I like to start my couples off by having the bride put her arms out to her sides, horizontally from her waist so the groom can see what looks good with her shoulders.

Especially if the groom is six feet three and bride is four feet five I want to make sure that their dancing frame is angled to her height not his.  After all she would look rather silly dancing her arms way up to him for their first dance!

Having established her correct frame height, then we move on to the bride’s three connection points and I focus on  impressing upon them the necessity for an “energy transference” toward each other at all times.  No one person should pull away or just plain “not be available” to the other in the frame.

Once we have the frame we move side to side and forward and back in it.

We walk in it.

We sway in it.

We get used to it.

People don’t really dance like this anymore so it can take a little getting used to the frame once you’re in it.

My grooms sometimes say it is hard to keep holding up their arms.  This might mean the bride is being “heavy” and using her groom’s arms as an arm “easy chair”.

My brides sometimes say that they feel like they’re “in the harness” of the frame and can’t move easily within it.  This might mean that the groom is holding her too stiffly and not letting the lead be communicated easily through his arms and his connection points.

During our first lesson we work hard to alleviate any stress in the dancing couple’s frame and make it a positive part of the dancing.  Since the frame connection is the pretty part and, I think, the romantic part it is vitally important that it work for us in the first dance.

Be it a foxtrot frame, a rumba frame or a swing frame – the couple’s dancing frame is an integral part of the mechanics and beauty of their wedding dance.

And as Audrey said, “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other” – we may as well do it right for the dance!

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It’s wedding season so email to Jillian@OurWeddingDance.com or call Jillian at 949.400.7347 today and reserve your favorite day and time for lessons now!

Happy almost Summer!

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