OUR WEDDING DANCE BLOG

June 30, 2010

Support, Guidance and… FUN!

Lisa & Ryan Dancing!

Hot off the press!

Lisa and Ryan – just married Saturday June 26th – sent me an email to let me know how their big day went and included this adorable picture.

Lisa looks oh-so-sexy in her gorgeous gown with the perfect flower in her long flowing curls and Ryan is the quintessential adoring husband in his dashing white suit.

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Hi Jillian!

We wanted to send you a quick pic of us dancing as a sneak peak before we get the video back.

Our wedding was simply magical.

And SO many people complimented us on our first dance.

It went beautifully and we greatly appreciate your support and guidance with our fun, fun lessons.  We will send you a video clip as soon as we receive it.

Cheers, Lisa & Ryan

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Lisa and Ryan danced on their big day to “L-O-V-E” and also learned dance routines of five to eight figures in merengue, cha cha, swing and more foxtrot to their second fav song “Feeling Good” to wow their guests all through their reception with their fun and kicky couple dancing.

I can’t wait to see their video and hear more about their fabulous wedding and reception.  They were such a wonderful couple to work with and I shall think of them often, especially when I’m teaching dance in the early morning!

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Here’s their sweet thank you note and a picture of their gifts to me.  I got a bottle of  Old Moon zin that they served their guests and a large plant of what they did smaller for guest favors.  :-)

Jillian,

Thank you for being the most patient, persistent, OUTRAGEOUS dance teacher ever!

Your guidance the past few months has meant more to us than you know.  We feel so much more prepared for our big day.

We’re going to blow them away!!

Many thanks, Lisa & Ryan

Lovey Gifts

Happy honeymooning in St. Lucia Lisa and Ryan!

And may you dance up a storm with your merengue and cha cha in the romantic tropical evenings…

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Visit the Our Wedding Dance Testimonials page at http://ourweddingdance.com/testimonials.htm for more sparkling testimonials from my couples.

Happy Summer, Jillian

Tel: 949.400.7347 or Email: Jillian@OurWeddingDance.com

June 16, 2010

“The Best Thing To Hold Onto In Life Is Each Other” – Audrey Hepburn

Well, I got my daughter graduated from UCLA – go Bruins! and I thought I’d share with you a little shop talk about the frame of the dancing couple since I get a lot of questions about that during my lessons.

When your guests watch your first dance do you think they’re looking at your feet?

Probably not. ;-)

The bride’s feet are most likely hidden by her dress and the groom’s feet may possibly be as well.

Your guests’ gazes are on your radiant faces and your dancing frame, that is your arms connected to each other hand to hand on one side and the groom’s right hand upon the back of the bride on the other.

The frame can make or break a dancing couple.

A “noodle” frame can make the dancing couple look soft and squishy and make the lead and follow very difficult to give and take.

A “rigid” frame can make the bride and groom look stiff and awkward and may even actually hurt the bride to take the lead, especially if her dashing groom is a strong armed one!

So what’s the best frame for dancing?

The leader should always frame up or down to the height of the follower.

I like to start my couples off by having the bride put her arms out to her sides, horizontally from her waist so the groom can see what looks good with her shoulders.

Especially if the groom is six feet three and bride is four feet five I want to make sure that their dancing frame is angled to her height not his.  After all she would look rather silly dancing her arms way up to him for their first dance!

Having established her correct frame height, then we move on to the bride’s three connection points and I focus on  impressing upon them the necessity for an “energy transference” toward each other at all times.  No one person should pull away or just plain “not be available” to the other in the frame.

Once we have the frame we move side to side and forward and back in it.

We walk in it.

We sway in it.

We get used to it.

People don’t really dance like this anymore so it can take a little getting used to the frame once you’re in it.

My grooms sometimes say it is hard to keep holding up their arms.  This might mean the bride is being “heavy” and using her groom’s arms as an arm “easy chair”.

My brides sometimes say that they feel like they’re “in the harness” of the frame and can’t move easily within it.  This might mean that the groom is holding her too stiffly and not letting the lead be communicated easily through his arms and his connection points.

During our first lesson we work hard to alleviate any stress in the dancing couple’s frame and make it a positive part of the dancing.  Since the frame connection is the pretty part and, I think, the romantic part :-) it is vitally important that it work for us in the first dance.

Be it a foxtrot frame, a rumba frame or a swing frame – the couple’s dancing frame is an integral part of the mechanics and beauty of their wedding dance.

And as Audrey said, “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other” – we may as well do it right for the dance!

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It’s wedding season so email to Jillian@OurWeddingDance.com or call Jillian at 949.400.7347 today and reserve your favorite day and time for lessons now!

Happy almost Summer!

Dance With Jillian

June 4, 2010

WE’RE MARRIED!!!

Testimonials are sooo exciting and it’s that time of year when I’m getting a bunch!

This first one just in from a fantastic couple that worked sooo hard over several months to make their dance beautiful and meaningful to each other and their guests.  They even included a piece of their dance on video which you can see if you click on the link below!

Adam and Denise’s Dance Video

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Hi Jillian!!!

WE’RE MARRIED!!!

Thank you so much for everything that you taught us, it made such a difference and we were so comfortable out there, even though we were a little disoriented and didn’t move around the dance floor as much.

It was still a huge hit, especially the patty cake move – you’ll hear the screams [on the video].  :)

Hope you enjoy it as much as we did!!!

THANKS,

Mr. and Mrs. Leonhardt

Married May 16, 2010 at the Old Ranch in Seal Beach

Song: “At Last”

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And this second one in from a wonderful couple who did two dances – one a fun and beautiful first dance but the second a great surprise.

The bride donned a red skirt with gold coins over her white dress and did a… you guessed it… a belly dance for her adoring groom whom we had seated in a chair for her sexy undulations!  At the end he got up and went down on one knee and took her in a swan-like dip!

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Jillian -

Thank you so much for attempting to teach us to dance!  Both our dances were a hit – especially the belly dance!  We’ll send the video.

Thank you!

Keith & Janet

Married May 1st 2010 at the Los Angeles Athletic Club

Songs:  “My Life” by The Beatles and a beautiful Arabic song

Keith & Janet's Adorable Postcard!

Remember…

if your wedding is coming up  it’s time to begin thinking about your lovely first dance!

Call Jillian at: 949 400 7347

Or visit the website at:

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May 18, 2010

You’re Timeless To Me

Every now and then I get a couple who really wants to do something different!

Sandra and Mike were just such a couple.

Read on to find out about their dream first dance.

They loved the song You’re Timeless to Me from the musical Hairspray and decided to adapt the lyrics of it to their relationship and the year 2010, record themselves singing it and come to me to choreograph and block moves and dancing to this almost five minute ditty.

Click here to see this fabulously funny rendition of it on YouTube from the movie with Christoper Walken and John Travolta.

Well, needless to say, after about ten or so rehearsals and a heap of practicing they were absolutely show-stopping!

They mimed movement to the lyrics of their song and in the middle of it danced a full foxtrot, tango AND waltz with zesty abandon.  I can’t wait for a video of their dance from their wedding so I can post it for you here.

They said they nailed it and I believe it from all the fun and hard work we put into the practicing.

Here’s their testimonial and a lovely picture of them on their happiest day ever.

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Jillian!

We had to get back to you to tell you how our dances [they also did a regular first dance to At Last - can you believe it?] went on Saturday!

WE NAILED IT!

We did not mess up at all!  They were beautiful!  What a surprise the second dance was to our guests!  They were in awe!  We can’t wait to see it on video!

Thank you, thank you, thank you!

It was all because of you we did so well to entertain our guests.  I wish you could have been there!  Rose was great getting that chair on the dance floor for Mike and then removing it.

People were in shock that the CD was us singing!  Once we find out how to send you some pics our friends took of us dancing we will send them!  The nun surprise was fantastic!

It was the perfect wedding!

It was a dream wedding.

Thank you so very much!  Hope to see you soon!

Sandra and Mike

Sandra & Mike

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Happy Almost June!

Call Jillian at 949.400.7347 for 1st Dance Lessons

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May 3, 2010

The Song That Says, “Us”

It’s the top of May and I bet you’re wondering what songs are hot with my brides and grooms right now??

Well, here’s a partial list of some of the standouts I’ve had to get you thinking what you might like to use for your first dance song:

“Can’t Take My Eyes Off Of You” by Frankie Valli (YouTube)

This is such a fun song since you can do a combination of slow moves and fast moves to it and plus it’s an all time favorite among just about all ages.  :-)   This couple did some sways and cuddles and swing moves with lots of turns and then learned a little swing with switching places and outside and inside turns to really kick up their heels!

“Sway” by Dean Martin (YouTube)

Wow, I’d forgotten about this great rendition of “Sway” by one of the all time masters until my couple came in with it and I fell in love with Dean Martin’s sexy voice and this rumba all over again.  We did some great moves like the chasse and some cross overs and walk around turns to this romantic favorite and really let the lady show off her undulating hips to her adoring gentleman as they “swayed” around the floor.  They had a very small dance floor and this song worked in the space and yet let them have fun too.

“Everything” by Michael Buble (YouTube)

Yep, “Everything” is still hot – so to speak and this couple loved the lyrics and the speed of the music and pronounced it totally perfect and totally them!  They had a 15′ x 15′ dance floor so the movement worked for them that we did with paddycakes and changing places borrowed from the foxtrot and the Viennese waltz respectively.  You could also work with a smaller dance floor with this song if you didn’t mind keeping your steps petite.  ;-)

“Amazed” by Lonestar (YouTube)

Who can deny that a song that starts out “Every time our eyes meet this feeling inside me is almost more than I can take…” isn’t the most romantic song you’ve heard in a long time??!  Couple that with a great beat and country feel and you’ve got a recipe for one treat of a first dance.  Yes, it’s a common song but sometimes it’s just better not to fool with success, no?? ;-)   My couple liked the easy going nature of this song since they admitted they’re not that into choreographed dancing but didn’t want to just “high school prom dance it”.  We kept it simple and elegant and everything went very well.  In fact everything went so well we put a lean, dip and jump on the end because the dance itself wasn’t too much.  Now that’s success!

“It Had To Be You” by Bobby Darin (Where to get it)

Hard to find but well worth the time… Couldn’t find this song on YouTube but the link above gives you some options for purchase.  We all know the Harry Connick Jr. rendition of this song and love it but one by Bobby Darin; now that’s a find!  My couple used this song because they loved Bobby Darin’s cool voice and wanted an up beat foxtrot that would get the reception guests up and dancing right after wards.  They didn’t have a lot of time to learn a dance and this song fit right into their schedule since it is 2 minutes and 12 seconds.  :-)

“I Have Dreamed” from the soundtrack of the movie “The American President” (YouTube)

Talk about old world charm and beauty – you can’t go wrong with this incredible piece.  My father/daughter couple said it had special meaning to them and I believe it!  Dad floated along like he was on ice and his daughter glowed like gold in his arms to this fluid song.  A gorgeous change from the usual father/daughter dance numbers!

“Just Like Heaven” by Katie Melua (YouTube)

Mmmm… this song is soooo romantic, sexy and now all at the same time.  You will feel just like heaven as you dance to this song for your first dance.  My couple oozed around the floor staring dreamily into each others eyes and we used the lyrics “spinning” to do some pretty twirls.  A great different type of first dance song to highlight your love!

“In My Life” by the Beatles (YouTube)

An all time favorite that is poignant, meaningful, easy-going and fun – How did the Beatles do it? – at the same time.  This couple put an especially personal touch on their first dance by dancing to this entire song and then bringing up a fabulous Arabic song for just a few minutes.   The bride added a red gold coin skirt to her gown, the groom sat in an offered chair and she did a short and PG rated belly dance for him!

Now that’s a first dance and that’s entertainment!  The crowd got foxtrot and hip undulations all in one package.  Hats off to the groom as well, who lead an excellent first dance and then was a great “prop” for the belly dancing and even rose up from his chair at the end to dance to the beat and get down on one knee so the bride could back bend a dip with him!

“Leather and Lace” by Stevie Nicks & Don Henley (YouTube)

This song takes me back and it was fun to watch my couple dance to it.  Kudos to them -  they’d known each other since the sixth grade!  Their reception was at 741 in Laguna Beach and we didn’t have much space so we kept it easy going with small sways and send outs and pretty walking steps to take them around the floor.  We kept the body language nice and close and romantic and put a twirly end on the piece for big end applause.

“Lucky” by Jason Mraz & Colbie Caillat (YouTube)

Fun and flirty with good lyrics, this first dance song is an easy dance and can really showcase a couple’s feelings for each other.  We had a small dance floor (10′ x 10′) and literally only one lesson to make this something special.  They worked hard on some cute swing moves and some perky promenades and we came up with three pretty pieces of choreography that they could repeat and a fun dip for the end.  It didn’t hurt that they were both swing dancers from their UCLA undergraduate days.  ;-)

“The Story” by Brandi Carlile (YouTube)

Beautiful.  The lyrics are wonderful and the tune is catchy and unusual.  This couple only had one lesson but they had so much fun they promised to send their parents in for dance lessons!  We had to keep it simple due to time considerations but just a few moves made this first dance a real winner.  Also, they had already decided to just do 2:13 of the song.  If you listen to it on YouTube you’ll hear a natural break there.  They had their DJ fade it out and start the general dancing at that point.

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Happy listening as you decide on the song that says, “Us!”

Jillian of OurWeddingDance.com

Jillian feeding the lorikeets at the Wild Animal Park!

Jillian feeding the lorikeets!

April 22, 2010

First Dance A Last Thought?

Ok, so you’ve been totally swamped and now it’s just weeks or days away from your wedding and oh-my-gosh that’s right you have to do a first dance!

Never fear… you can do something simple and pretty even if you just plain have no time left.

In fact, I probably get at least five phone calls a week from brides or grooms getting married in under two weeks.

Of course, it would be preferable to have a month or two before the big day to get the first dance in your muscle memory, but what if you just want to have a bit of help with some turns and simply keep off of each others feet while dancing!

I’ve worked with students right before the big day very successfully and given them something quick and easy to work with for their big moment all alone on the dance floor.

One of my recent couples said they certainly felt better after their time with me than before and although they wished they’d had more time to work on their dance they felt a glow of confidence that would take them through it with flair and fun.

So if you’re debating about whether to go ahead and do just one lesson for your first dance even though you’re in the eleventh hour of preparations why not go for it?

I think you’ll be glad you did and who knows maybe you’ll take a few lessons after the honeymoon to wow your friends at their weddings with your lead and follow and fancy footwork.

Remember dancing lasts your whole life long… burns calories… and let’s face it guys, is a real pleaser for most of the gals out there!

Call Jillian at 949.400.7347 or email her at Jillian@OurWeddingDance.com and squeeze  a first dance lesson into that to-do list today!

Jillian of Our Wedding Dance!

February 26, 2010

Words to the Wedding Show Wise

Wedding Shows

Two words that conjure up images of lots of people, lots of noise and lots of choices!

Is a wedding show good for you to attend?  I believe it is but first let me qualify that.

Having been a participant at over 25 wedding shows in the Orange County area during my many years as a wedding dance instructor I can tell you from experience they are not all created equal!

There are gigantic ones at the Anaheim Convention Center all the way down to intimate ones at various wedding reception venues all over Orange and LA Counties and the Inland Empire.

In fact this Sunday, February 28th from 11am-3pm I’ll be dancing at a lovely local complementary wedding show in San Clemente, 111 Avenida Vista Montana San Clemente, Ca 92672.  Visit this link for more information.

Some are expensive to get into, others are free.  Some feel super high end, others feel home town and local.  Some are run by conglomerates who do three to six shows a year in several counties and even many states and others are offered by reception venues and cater to brides and grooms who have already decided to use their services.

Whatever the show, you’re sure to find lots of cake, food samples and vendors of every type to satisfy your wedding planning needs and maybe even a fashion show or two.

But be prepared…

Bring a large bag since the show might not provide one for you to collect paperwork and you don’t want to be balancing a lot stuff as you walk around and sample food.

Some really on-the-go brides and grooms even bring their own address labels complete with their wedding date on them so if they want to fill-out a raffle ticket or info card for a vendor they don’t have to waste time and tire themselves out writing but just stick one of their labels instead.  :-)

Definitely wear comfortable shoes.  You will be walking and standing a lot.  Keep in mind too, if you’re bringing along your groom his comfort as well.  I see more and more grooms coming to wedding shows and I always try to make them feel especially welcome and not like they just stepped into a “girls only” sector.

If you are just getting started in this great big task of putting on a wedding (read that – you’re a year away from your big day) you might want to attend what I call the “overall picture” wedding show.

This show is usually fairly large about seven dollars or less per person for entrance and held in a local hotel.  Be sure to take a look at the vendor list in advance and see where the vendors are based out of and what kind of web sites they have.  You can tell a lot about a vendor from their web site and also the testimonials listed on it.

Often you can call a vendor listed on that particular wedding show list and they might have a few free tickets available for the show they’ll be at and they can send you some or leave them at the door.

Keep in mind, if the show has a lot of vendors based out of your area that might not be a good show for you to attend if you’re looking for local people so you don’t have to drive too far for consultations and follow-ups.

During the early planning stages you want to attend shows that will give you the maximum amount of knowledge for your time spent researching.  Other considerations include how big your wedding and reception are going to be and what your budget is for them.

If you know you’re having an intimate ceremony and reception for under a hundred you don’t need to go to a giant wedding show.  In fact you might only go to a wedding show in this case just for the fun of it.

Yes, guys – wedding shows can be fun.  Where else will everyone be really nice to you because you’re getting married and ply you with goodies and cake to eat and freebies and coupons to take home??  Just think of all the brownie points you’ll get to use when you need to have guys poker night or game practice.  ;-)

At any rate, I’ve only just touched on the giant area of wedding shows here. I’ll post more later on this year so check back often to see what’s up!

Email me at Jillian@OurWeddingDance.com if you have questions.

You can also visit my wedding show page on my web site to see more of my experiences at wedding shows.

Jillian at the Richard Nixon Library Wedding Show

February 20, 2010

Calling all Dads…

So Dads not only have to “help” with the wedding but they have to perform at it  too??

What’s up with that… ;-)

Well, just in case you’re wondering the Father/Daughter dance is a hot topic these days.

Should it be short?

Should it be done after the Bride and Groom’s 1st Dance?

Should it be choreographed?

Should Dad be allowed to wing it or will he look silly and do that flapping chicken move he loves so well?

Well I don’t know about the chicken thing but I do know that I’ve noticed a few commonalities emerging  with the Father/Daughter dance.

Dads are choosing their own songs.  Songs that were popular the year their lovely daughter was born.  Songs that they used to love to dance to in their youth and songs that just make them want to get up and dance!

Just recently I had a fantastic Father/Daughter song, “Isn’t She Lovely” and my bride floated along in Dad’s arms looking just that.

Her Dad had some disco moves but he hadn’t really done the foxtrot in years so we set about getting him up to speed.

He learned some fun underarm turns from the box step and the promenade to show off his daughter and her amazing gown.

We put a cuddle on the end and a twirl with him doing a quick sleight of hand switching trick that ended with him pointing out a la John Travolta.

“That’s so Dad”, my bride exclaimed and I think Dad got a hundred brownie points right there on the spot!

He said now that was a dance when he could incorporate some of his moves from his days of “doin the hustle”.

Of course after the wedding Dad now has some fancy footwork for Mom and can wow her on their night out on the town.

Ah, two gals happy with one dance lesson… too bad everything can’t be this easy.  ;-)

Call me at 949.400.7347 and I’ll see that you’re not only the “founder of the feast” but also can turn in a Father/Daughter dance to be proud of!

In the meantime look up some of those favorite songs of yours and visit my Father/Daughter dance page at:

http://ourweddingdance.com/fatherdaughterdance.htm and let’s get started today.  :-)

November 23, 2009

Holiday Dance Gift Certificates Make Clever Gifts!

Sometimes I really dread going into the stores around the holidays.  The crowds are crazy, the merchandise feels like the same old thing and I always seem to want to buy everything that is just beyond my budget!

So speaking from experience, when I find something different and cost effective to give my loved ones and friends I jump at the opportunity… like the idea of gift certificates and specifically dance instruction and choreography gift certificates!

 Just an email away this gift is one that really does keep on giving.  Once a person or persons learn to dance a whole new area of fun and health is opened up to them.

This isn’t your average fashion item gift that someone may use or wear once or twice or, heaven forbid, return for we all know less than original purchase price!

This is a gift of doing.  Doing something to music.  Doing something different.  And doing something that can be a life-long skill and healthful alternative.

So how do you go about getting a holiday gift certificate?

Email me with your information about who gets the certificate, who is it from and what amount of time you’d like it to be for.  Include your phone number and I can take a credit card for the gift certificate over the phone or you can simply mail me a check.

I offer half hour, hour, three hour and five hour gift certificates and most of my couples like me to simply email them the certificate for them to print out at home.

(One harried groom even called me last year on Christmas Eve and I raced home to my computer and made his gift  certificate and emailed it to him in time for Christmas morning!!)

Once the holidays are over the certificate can be redeemed at any time I’m not already booked for a full year after issue.  So try something a little unusual this year and give the gift of a holiday dance gift certificate.  I’d love to help you check off a few special someones on your gift list this year!

Happy Thanksgiving from Jillian at OurWeddingDance.com

Happy Thanksgiving from Jillian at OurWeddingDance.com

October 14, 2009

Small Dance Floor Can Give Big First Dance!

Are you getting married on a boat?

Are you having your reception for 95 in an intimate setting?

Does the restaurant where your reception will be not want to give up any floor from the tables for dancing?

Don’t despair…

You can still have a gorgeous first dance that is perfect for you both even though you don’t have a 20′ x 20′ dance floor!

I’ve heard a lot of my couples say they can’t do anything for a first dance because their floor is 8′ by 8′ or even 4′ by 4′ or really long and super, super skinny.

But you can do a dance on even the most postage stamp or lap pool size of floors.

It just takes a little creativity!

In fact a lot of my grooms have come away from their dance lessons for an intimate sized first dance saying that they’re glad their floor is going to be small.  There’s less expectation for a dance that moves around like a race or any crazy Dancing With The Stars lifts and dips.

You can do a rumba or swing.

Or some very small foxtroting or waltzing steps and some twirls and dips in place.

Your guests will really feel like you’ve involved them since they’re so close and don’t forget probably no one will be looking at your feet!

Below is a picture of a wonderful bride and groom I had who just got married October 4th on the Newport Princess in Newport’s harbor.  Needless to say they didn’t have a lot of space! 

Hear what the bride’s mom said,

Hi Jill, The wedding was fabulous.  What a party!  Jen and Darrell were gorgeous.  Thanks so much for teaching them how to dance, they did great.  I hope you enjoy the picture!  Sincerely, Diana

Jen and Darrell dance on the Newport Princess!

Jennifer and Darrell first danced on an intimate dance floor on the Newport Princess!

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