Ok, I got that out there. 

And because of the recession there has been an increase in DIY (“do it yourself”) brides.

Brides are tackling everything from their own flower designs to their own dresses to their own day of wedding coordination.

Whew, I’m exhausted just thinking about it!

But what about the first dance?

Can a bride DIY the first dance and would she even want to?

Well, first off dance lessons are not in the same price bracket as flowers and dresses.  Even some of the pros I’ve coached with over the years and others I’ve only heard whispers about topped out at about $185 for forty-five minutes, a far cry from the thousands you might spend on flowers or a gown for your wedding.

But still brides say every little bit counts.

In fact a recent Association of Bridal Consultants survey sited brides cutting back on almost every major category of wedding services with the most drastically hit category being personal, such as spa days.

But should you cut out those dance lessons?

And what are your choices if you still want to have a dance and not a clutch and sway fest?

You could try a DVD but do you have the time to sit there and dissect it and work with it a hundred times with your fiance who may or may not be up for it – let alone up for you telling him yet another thing he has to do!

I say look at the dance lessons as:

1) entertainment and fun during a super stressful time for both of you and

2) something you can learn to do together that you can keep on doing together long after the cake you’ve saved for your first anniversary is rock solid in your freezer!

So be kind to yourselves and give each other just an hour a week to hold each other and laugh together at a dance lesson where the most pressing question is which foot you’re going to stand on!

Consider it an investment in future “getting along together” points and bank a few love dollars in the love bank with your best friend and the love of your life.

Happy almost Halloween and enjoy the treats!